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The ability to pick up women is something that is not taught, and therefore something that most men know nothing about. People still consider the process to be something that is totally natural and cannot be taught, however being a pickup artist this is something that I, along with PUA’s all over the world would dispute.

I personally went from considering myself unattractive, and having no success with women, to being a confident outgoing person who was able to attract and seduce desirable women.

To pick up women successfully,  you will need to have three aspects to your character, Mr Sociable, Mr Comfort, and Mr Seducer.

The first stage involves being Mr Sociable, which means being outgoing, chatty confident, and all maintaining all the other characteristics that people understand to be sociable. If you don’t consider yourself a confident, outgoing person there are plenty of ways to overcome this. Take an approach course, read pick up material, or get a one on one with a professional PUA. The most effective, and the cheapest method would be to simply start approaching. The more you do it, the more natural and effective your game will become.

Once you’ve started a conversation, aim to transition into becoming Mr Comfort. Ask questions that will evoke deep feelings that she won’t usually share with people she’s just met. Ask her about her childhood, the last time she was in love. A good PUA will talk to a girl about things that will evoke deep emotions and get her to talk about things that she feels passionate about. Don’t just sit there nodding and agreeing with everything she says. Make an effort to listen to what she’s saying, then feed it back to her, which will help make a connection.

When you feel you’ve created a good level of comfort switch to Mr Seduction and start sexually escalating. Slow your speech down, make eye contact and kino. Perhaps throw in a SOI (statement of intent) and don’t be afraid to let her know that you want her, which is something that a lot of men feel reluctant to do when trying to pick up women. If you have built up enough comfort this will come across as seductive, not sleazy. However don’t try to do this too early, as you will then you will come across as a sleazy pickup artist, so make sure you don’t skip stage two of the process!

The key to being a successful pickup artist is to transition from one character to another smoothly, and at the right time. If you spend too much time being Mr Sociable, then you’ll come across as a fun guy which is good, but you won’t be able to build up enough of a connection to have made the girl really interested. Spend too much time as Mr Comfort, then you risk being trapped in the friend zone, a common problem with students who are too timid to let a girl know that they want them.

The only way to be able to judge when to shift from one character to another is practice. With enough practice you’ll eventually be able to tell when to switch from one character to another, and will be able to transition between all characters smoothly and crucially you will be successful in your quest to pick up women. Don’t be afraid to lead a girl in the interaction, and if you’re done with messing around but she still wants to flirt, start having a serious conversation and she’ll follow your lead into the second stage. Try giving girls SOI’s to judge at what stage it’s acceptable to transition from Mr Comfort to Mr Seduction. Remember that a good PUA won’t see being blown out of a set as a failure, it’s practice and it will give you the chance to analyse what went wrong and learn from it.

Picking up women during the daytime

 

A few short years ago I realized that meeting women in bars was not my favorite pastime, eventually most men get tired of the bitchiness, the “I’m better than you” attitude that women seem to give off, they’ve been approached so many times by guys that by the time you get round to talking to her she’s not going to be happy with men at all. Then I realized that why not try to meet women during the day?

 

It made perfect sense that women during the day will be much more receptive, more open to conversation and overall more genuine. The conversation wont revolve around having to win her approval or buy her a drink, it’ll be mutual conversation around interesting topics that I’m interested in.

 

I also came to the conclusion that picking up women during the daytime will be much easier for the sheer fact that there are ten times more places I can meet them, I’m not limited to the few bars in my city, I’ve got so much choice on meeting more women during the daytime.

 

So here are 3 tips when it comes to picking up women during the day.

 

Always approach asap. Don’t linger or stalk around trying to think of something to say. You want to see her and then immediately approach her.

Make sure you have you conversation starter already prepared, it’s not unusual to memorize conversation starters so you can say them with confidence when you meet women during the day. You’ll feel a lot more comfortable and confident if you have something memorized when you’re out there “in-field”.

Watch your body language. Make sure you don’t give her too much attention in the beginning stages of the interaction. You want to make sure you keep you body language “uninterested” but communicate verbally you’re interested that way you’re throwing off mixed signals and women love this.

 

 

You’ll realise that when you first go out and try this that approaching women during the daytime will be difficult the first few times, however over the weeks and months it’ll get easier and easier and eventually you wont even have to think about it, you’ll just naturally walk up and say hello with confidence. Time is your best resource when learning how to pick up women during the day.

 

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Picking up a woman tends to be easy and fun when you are at the right place and at the right time. Here are the ways to pick up a woman to help the alpha males on their dating and love life.

1. Go to the right place. The usual places for men to pick up women are the clubs, bars and disco houses. Whether you are going alone or with friends, make sure to choose a nice, safe and well-known place. You don’t necessarily have to opt for the most expensive, but consider researching and asking trusted people on the best hang-outs that’s best to pick-up a woman.

2. Chose the right girl. I know that it’s hard, but I’ll try to make it easier for you. Once you enter the place, you will probably have a lot of “potential targets” to choose from. Find someone and examine them from afar. Are they alone? Well, it may or may not be a good sign. You’re lucky if she’s alone. But she might be waiting for someone else on the other hand. Is she with her friends or with a group of people? Don’t loose hope; there will always be a great chance that her companions will leave the table to dance/go to restroom and stuff. Notice of she looks bored or unhappy. This will be a great opportunity for you to get her attention.

3. Practice the art of flirting. The best way a stranger can notice you is to suggest that you are attracted to her through body language flirting. Use the eye contact test. If you catch her trading glances with you, that is your cue to get off your ass and approach. It’s a clear sign that she finds you attractive and she wants you to approach her.

4. Approach her and introduce yourself. And by that, I mean properly. Just because the place is not formal, you should make an effort to introduce yourself in a striking and intelligent manner. Ask her casual questions, like if she’s having fun but avoid buying her a drink! Only beta males buy drinks for women right off the bat.

5. Avoid cheesy and blunt pick-up lines. Using pick-up lines is probably the most widely used way to pick up a woman. A girl can smell a fake from a mile away. Opt for casual questions and ice breakers. Smile and make eye contact.

6. Be a good conversationalist. Talk to her in a way that she will find you interesting, funny and sincere. Inject humor, teasing, curiosity and seriousness in your conversation. Take advantage of this opportunity to get to know her better and learn a lot of new things as well.

7. Mind your manners. Everyone’s attracted to a gentleman. Try to leave a good impression by being polite, interested and appropriate. If you ask her to dance, respect her decision if she declines. If she says yes, dance with grace and leave the body grinding for another time.

8. When things get more a little more serious and comfortable suggest a less quite place where you both can sit down and talk. The best way to pick up a woman, as they say, is to gain her trust and make her feel at ease with you.

9. Compliment her. The trick is not to be like everyone else. Don’t compliment her beauty! Every other guy does that and she’s heard it a million times. Find something unique and compliment her on that.

10. Remember that picking up women needs practice. It’s a numbers game and there will always be a time where you will get rejected. Accept it and learn from your mistakes.

Picking up women is too a generalized question for me to answer, I mean what would you consider a pick up is…

A phone number?

A date?

Getting her back to yours?

Heck. If you got her back to yours that would be in my books a decent and very successful pickup however to some guys there’s even more.

Is getting her in a relationship with you (assuming that’s what you want) a pickup?

We’re getting a little off topic here but I’m sure you see where I’m taking this.

Picking up women is different to a lot of people, how far you take it, how you interpret it etc. What are your goals? If you want a relationship then getting a girl into a relationship with you would be a successful pickup.

If you just want a girlfriend and you achieve this then this would be considered a successful pickup too.

Picking up women from the moment you introduce yourself is a lot easier than it’s ever been in society. A hundred years ago there were arranged marriages, (still happening in some 3rd world countries), or you couldn’t date a girl if she’s in a different social class, or if she was apart of a different religion.

We’re lucky you and I live in western cutlre where WE have so much opportunity and potential and most importantly CHOICE… something our ancestors never had.

How To Pick Up Women- Simple Steps To Follow:

-Pick up girls tip #1 Always lead interactions, women love leaders especially men who go and take what they want without asking, I’m not saying go out and loot shops, and steal old grannies purses I’m just pointing out that dominance, leadership and ambitiousness’s are attractive qualities women desire in men. You must ALWAYS be leading and in control. There’s is nothing more a turn off than when a women has to control a situation (if you wussie out)

- Pick up girls tip #2Be protective, when it comes to pick up your lucky lady nothing makes her feel your presence than a dominant man. Similar to those afternoon wildlife programs about the dominant male lion taking over other males prides and having intercourse with all the females. The females accept this as there fate and go with the flow watching the old male be beaten and ripped to pieces and accepting the victor into the pride. They allow this, as they know they can be protected with the stronger male by their side.

I’m not saying you should go around staring fights. This is what a lot of guys do (partly out of frustration), im pointing out that being dominant will help you greatly. There are plenty of ways (which I’ll point out later) how to be still friendly and still take charge or interactions when they need to be lead (without being to aggressive).

- Pick up girls tip # 3“Walk away anytime policy”

Having a mindset that you can walk away anytime from any interaction with women will instantly give you more power and leverage when you hold sets.

Imagine a salesman who approaches you at tells you he has a killer product to sell you… which will change your life, make $1,000,000 in 10 days guaranteed but he wont bother selling it to you as he’s more important things to do…

How would you react to this? Would you spring from where you were standing and stop him asking about this product? You probably would.

Why?

Most people would do this in fact (including me) however it wouldn’t be for the life changing aspect or the millions in my bank it’ll generate, sure that’ll be a bonus to the product…the main reason you would chase after the salesman for one thing only… curiosity…

This guys has immense value…his mindset is “I can walk away any moment from now” and this is powerful as it display non-neediness …

The product MUST be good …

When you have this mindset when talking to women you’ll get similar if not the same results. If you convey subtly that you’re in demand and if they bust your balls or screw up once then you’ll walk away then that’s powerful.

Talk soon!

Alex

Have a date tonight? If not you probably don’t know the secret to picking up women. Lots of guys that seem to have everything together wind up going home to their apartments to open a beer and watch another game on ESPN alone.

Well it doesn’t have to be that way. You can learn how to pick up women easily and all the time. The first thing to understand is that she is just as interested in dating as you are. Understand that ice girls are taught to play hard to get from the moment they understand what dating is. They are told that if they come across too aggressive with a man, that he isn’t going to like it. So they don’t seem interested when they are or they don’t call you back. How can you tell the difference between a woman who is playing hard to get and a woman who really isn’t interested?

The woman who is playing hard to get will still be standing next to you and may be looking down at the floor. Or she may touch your arm. Or the woman talks to you on the telephone, keeping you on the telephone longer by asking you questions. In short she doesn’t just say no thanks in a nice way, she prolongs the encounter in some way. That’s the easiest way you can tell she’s playing “hard to get” with you.

It is no secret that women like confident men. However, many men mistake the idea of confident for some type of arrogant jerk. They think that a confident man is the type of man who thinks he is always right, always perfect. That is not quite what a woman is looking for. Most women are looking for a man who accepts himself as he is with his good points and his faults. If you can be confident enough to accept that you are shorter than she is, instead talk to her anyway she is going to admire your confidence.

A funny guy also has great success with women. This is not to say that you have to be a comedian. Learn to tell a story in an adventurous way. Or learn several good jokes that you can tell when you meet women. A word of warning: do not tell jokes that some women would consider to have racial, ethnic or sexist slurs in them. An off-color joke or remark could easily turn off a woman who is already interested in you. Don’t take the chance and lose out on a great date with a beautiful woman because you tell her some dumb joke you don’t even think is that funny. Learn some clean jokes, the kind you’d tell your boss at work.

One of the best ways to pick up any woman is by using common courtesies. Women love a man with good manners. This is something they will always tell their friends after they have been on a date. Did he open the car door for you, they’ll ask each other. Did he stand when you walked into the room is another question that they’ll ask. While some of these may seem a bit formal to you, having good manners shows a woman that you know how to treat people well. If you know how to treat people well then you’ll most likely treat her well.

Another top tip to pick up women is to be nice to the other women in her life. If you are interested in a woman, be nice to her sisters, friends, mother and other women. Women talk to each other. If you are not polite and thoughtful then guess what they are going to talk about you. However if you make a great impression they are going to all say nice things about you: this is going to make snagging this woman all the easier.

Picking up women always gets easier with practice. Add some of these tips to your daily life and you’ll soon discover that you are picking up more women with ease.