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Hi ,
o Romance Her – How PROS Do It
A single woman, who hasn’t been completely frustrated in her
experiences with men and who is not excessively jaded, craves
a romantic experience and dreams about meeting that guy who
will bring romance into her life.
However, there is a lot of confusion about what being romantic
with women means, and this issue certain deserves
clarification.
The notion of romance has significantly evolved during the
past few generations.
There is at least one major, important difference between what
it meant to be romantic 10 or 20 years ago and between what
being a romantic guy means today.
Today, any reasonably intelligent woman with some dating
experience will perceive many of the typically considered
romantic things as cheesy and cliche.
Long walks on the beach and looking at the stars in the evening
used to be considered some of the most romantic activities.
Today, however, after watching dozens of romantic movies and
soap operas, many women would consider such activities to be
cheesy, cliche and lacking in creativity.
Long walks on the beach is used more as a joke nowdays than
as a romantic fantasy that it used to be.
This means that to come across as a fun and romantic guy today,
you must do things that are different and unique from what a
woman used to experiencing and hearing from others.
Here are few tips on how you can come across as a more
romantic guy:
1. First, you must remember that whether you come across as
romantic DEPENDS MUCH MORE ON WHETHER THE GIRL LIKES YOU
OR NOT and it depends much LESS on the activity that both
of you are engaged in.
If she likes you already, it won’t really matter how you spend
your time together. A simple cup of coffee with you at a
grungy coffee shop is going to be much more romantic than fine
dining with a guy who she finds boring.
So, focus on being a more INTERESTING COMPANY, and many aspects
of being romantic will take care of themselves.
2. Don’t try to be romantic too early. There is no reason to
wear a suit, or bring flowers and candy on a first date. Romantic
gestures are only special and significant if they come from a
guy who means something to a woman.
Therefore, you should hold off on doing special things until
such time that you become at least somewhat special to each
other.
Fine dining on a first date is likely to do nothing but make
the two people who don’t know each other very well to feel
awkward in a stuffy environment.
On the other hand, a special dinner celebrating an anniversary
or another even special to both dating partners will be a
very romantic experience.
3. Be unpredictable. Being unique and different can be simple
and very inexpensive. Here are just a few ideas:
a. Burn a CD of some rare kind of tribal/loungy music, and
make a simple voice dedication to her at the beginning of that
CD, saying something like: I don’t know much about your taste
in music, but something tells me that you will like it.
You can be sure that she probably never received a gift like
that, and she will be thrilled with this kind of surprise,
uniquely tailored to her.
b. Don’t wait for the right and appropriate time to kiss
the girl.
If you feel that she likes you and she is attracted to you,
catch her by surprise, lean over and grab her gently and
kiss her.
c. It’s easier to be romantic in a quiet, secluded environment
than in a crowded place. You are not likely to come across as
romantic hanging out downtown on your first date or going to a
farmers market.
Going to a park or a small cafe where the two of you will be
among the very few other people will make your interaction
much more compelling.
d. Be random and unpredictable in your actions and conversation.
A conversation with a woman is not an English class composition.
You don’t need to use smooth transitions or introductions.
Talk about science, politics, math, Britney Spears, the latest
movie you saw, fashion, your favorite animals, basketball…
ask her random questions and notice random things around you.
Don’t feel that you have to follow a certain order in the way
you go about getting to know her. There is no rule that
says that you should ask a girl how many siblings she has and
where her family is from, before you find out what her
favorite ice cream flavor is.
e. Buy a cup of coffee and a snack and walk/drive to some nice
square or park. If she wants to see on the bench, and it’s a
warm day, tell her no way and bring her to sit down on the
grass, as this will be far more intimate and unconventional.
f. And again, above all – be interesting. Nothing boring
should come out of your mouth. If the girl is smart,
open-minded and easy going, she will enjoy banter and sarcasm,
which means that you have no excuse to not be funny, witty
and interesting. So, if she asks you how long you have been
single, don’t simply answer that question.
Tell her with a very serious face and tone of voice that you
are married but you are looking for a girlfriend, and she
will surely laugh at this kind of smart-ass come back.
4. Maintain Eye Contact – there can be no romance between
the two, if they don’t look into each other’s eyes. This
doesn’t mean that you have to stare in the woman’s eyes at
all times, but you should make sure certainly maintain eye
contact when you talk to her, as your eyes might tell her
a better story about who you are and how you feel about her
than your words.
And, if the girl is very shy and she avoids eye contact,
tease her about it and ask her: You are not looking me in
the eyes… am I that ugly?
I’ll take to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David K